How many of you reading this today have ever approached a guy to ask him out, ask for his number or simply ask for his name? I am going to go out on a limb here and say that the majority of you are waiting for the guy at the bar to come up to you and strike up a conversation, message you first on a dating app, send that first "good morning" text, or ask you out on a date. Why has society built this expectation that guys have to be the one to make the first move? Chivalry should not be defined for men only. We as women need to own up and stand up for our feelings and be confident enough to express them. I feel like in South Asian culture specifically, Bollywood has created a false and unrealistic vision for Brown Girls that one day, some guy is going to come in to her life and where she dreams of herself running into his arms in a field of sunflowers and he expresses his love for her and they both live happily ever after. While this may sound like rainbows and sunshine, have you ever thought about being the one to make the first move and how empowering that might turn out to be? Just to give you all an insight into my personal life, I have taken my chances on a guy twice. Once in college and one time in my adult life post college. I will admit that during both times, I was super nervous. But in retrospect, those were the best nervous feelings that I have had in my life. All I can say is that if I have learned anything, especially during COVID, it's that life is truly very short and that saying isn't just a saying. So take your shot and try something new. The only thing you really have to lose is your chance if you don't take your best shot at it.
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